Posted March 12, 2018, 3 p.m.
This article originally appeared on Backstage Magazine

If you aren’t currently booking the roles you want, there’s a high likelihood that you’re telling yourself one or more of the following:

1. I’m too old (didn’t start early enough).
2. I don’t live in the right city (LA or NYC).
3. I don’t have what it takes (ie – enough talent).
4. I don’t have enough experience.
5. I don’t have enough training.
6. I don’t know the right people.
7. I don’t have enough money.
8. I’m not in a union.
9. I don’t have a good enough agent (or an agent period).
10. I’m not confident enough.
11. I’m not good enough/I don’t deserve to succeed.
12. I’m wasting my time. I should just go back to school.
13. See those other people? They’ve got it. I don’t.
14. I’m not interesting enough.
15. I don’t have thick enough skin; I can’t take the rejection.
16. Who do I think I am?
17. It’s now or never.
18. I don’t have the right look.
19. They’re silently laughing at me for even auditioning for this role.
20. I’m just gonna mess it up.
21. I’ll never get cast in a role I care about.
22. I’ll never be able to work as an actor.
23. There aren’t enough roles.
24. I don’t have the right mindset.
25. I’ll have to compromise who I am to please Hollywood.

Despite what you might think, none of the above statements are objectively true. While they may seem like hard truths, they aren’t. You can find countless actors who could have used any of the excuses listed above as a reason to not pursue their dreams but didn’t. Heath Ledger could have used number five since he never took an acting class…but he didn’t. Melissa McCarthy could have told herself number 18 (I can’t count how many actresses have told me they aren’t “skinny enough” to book)…but she didn’t. Peter Dinklage could have used number seven while living in an apartment without heat because he was so broke…but he didn’t.

When you doubt yourself, it’s because one part of you wants something (to succeed as an actor) but another part is terrified of what will happen if you go for it. The key to overcoming self-doubt is to dive into your unconscious mind and discover what the doubting part of you is afraid of without trying to make that part bad or wrong. If you argue with it, shame it, or berate it, you’ll only strengthen the self-doubt.

But when you realize that self-doubt (even—and especially—when it gets really nasty) is trying to protect you, you can communicate with it more freely and help it find a way to get what it needs while the part of you that wants to succeed also gets what it needs. You have to create a win-win.

For example, if you realize that the self-doubting part of you is afraid you’ll alienate your loved ones and leave them behind if you succeed (this unconscious fear is extremely common amongst actors; I had a client turn down a major role because he was afraid his marriage would fall apart if he took it), you’d need to help the self-doubting part of you realize that success as an actor can actually lead to even closer relationships with your loved ones.

When you create that new understanding, the reason for self-doubt melts away and that part of you will actually begin encouraging you to succeed.

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